loving each of them.

(I wrote this as a guest post for a sweet friend over here, but wanted it here as well. She asked if I would write about having three small children that are close in age and being intentional with each of them. Raising them where each feel valued and special 🙂 )

Loving each of my babies well as individuals is really important to me. They are all different. And they have different needs and wants and it’s my job to know them well enough to meet those. When I chose to be a mama, I chose to be selfless. I chose to care and love someone else before myself. That means sleepless nights and messy rooms…but it means more than that. It means truly knowing my children. Knowing their little hearts, their dreams, their fears… their needs. I desire to be intentional with my kids. Loving them as individuals and creating moments with them as individuals, not just as a group is so important to this heart of mine. And to Chris too.
Chris and I take each kiddo for 10-15 minutes each day and do something just us. It can be a simple walk down to the end of the block and back. Rocking a child and reading a story one on one. Taking one outside to feed the pets and swing on the hammock. A moment one on one to say “I see you, I care about you, tell me about your day…. just you” Something sweet and simple just the two of you to fill up their little tank.  You can also do longer activities. I always take one of the three with me if I am running somewhere real quick and then we might stop for a quick ice cream together before we get back!
We all want to be seen, and special. We want to know that people are proud of us and that we are well loved and truly known. understood.
Knowing my babies and understanding who they are, what makes them tick…that’s what it’s all about. 
It’s in the little moments. 
It’s knowing that one of your kids will walk into church and never look back and the other will fight back tears the whole way down the hall. It’s knowing one will need a few extra minutes at bedtime while the other one wants a little extra time in the middle of the day playing outside with you.
One of my kiddos never looks back. From the moment this one was born this child was super independent. It was just in this one. It had absolutely nothing to do with me. We have raised them all the same yet they are all so different. Honestly, at first my heart ached a bit. It would make my heart wince a bit when this one never shed a tear, never would turn around. But I celebrate this in this child. There is a fierce independence and it will lead this one well. I see this one as brave.

The truth is, this one is just about everything that I have always wished that I could be: confident, brave, adventurous. I want this one to have that forever. I don’t want the broken hearts and bullies at school and the peer pressure of life to rob this child. I want to help this one fight for it. To feel valued and worthy and everything that this one absolutely is. This child deserves better than that. I don’t want to mess with the qualities that God placed in this one for a purpose. 

One of my other kiddos is so much like me. This one always looks back. My mini-me. I feel like I can parent this one in a really special, beautiful way because I understand this one in a really unique way. I understand why certain things are done or said. I understand the fears and hesitation. The sensitive heart. I fear for this one in a mighty way too, I want to protect that sensitive heart- wrap steel bars around it. That tender spirit is worth fighting to protect. 
Our job after all is to guide them and help them become who they are meant to be. And that means loving them and knowing them well. 


February 14, 2014


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  1. Amanda

    February 14th, 2014 at 3:25 am

    This is really beautiful. How incredible to know your children as individuals and love them in their own special and big way. Oh, how I am learning to do this everyday! A wonderful post!

  2. CaseyWiegand

    February 14th, 2014 at 5:58 pm

    thank you so much sweet friend 🙂

  3. jillian sara

    February 14th, 2014 at 4:06 am

    so beautiful. you are a great mommy sweet casey. and christ has blessed you with an amazing talent to share it with others. I notice a different in my babies when they get one on one time with us. they feel so special! hugs, friend! PS. I treasure your words in your posts!
    -jillian sara

  4. CaseyWiegand

    February 14th, 2014 at 5:59 pm

    means so much to me love! thank you so much!!

  5. Jenna Guizar

    February 14th, 2014 at 4:18 am

    Beautifully said, Casey. Your idea of spending quality one-on-one time with each babe is perfect. Thank you so much for this gentle reminder to really know and understand each of my girls — their differences, their desires, what makes them tick. Their individuality is to be treasured. Thanks. ~jenna

  6. CaseyWiegand

    February 14th, 2014 at 5:59 pm

    thank you so much love!

  7. Leah

    February 14th, 2014 at 5:21 am

    Beautiful, friend. Your babies are so blessed to call you Mom. xoxo

  8. CaseyWiegand

    February 14th, 2014 at 5:59 pm

    aw you are so sweet friend, thank you!

  9. Sandy a la Mode

    February 14th, 2014 at 3:12 pm

    i love that you give each kiddo individualized attention! that is soo important! you are a great momma!

    Sandy a la Mode

  10. CaseyWiegand

    February 14th, 2014 at 5:59 pm

    aw i sure love you friend!!

  11. kyla_ruck

    February 14th, 2014 at 11:28 pm

    The way that you love your children is so inspiring. I too am a mama of three and there are so many hard moments, but so many beautiful ones as well that I don't want to miss out on. Thanks for this!

  12. CaseyWiegand

    February 19th, 2014 at 2:13 pm

    means so much to me 🙂

  13. Gabrielle Crystal ℛoseℬonniee

    February 15th, 2014 at 1:14 pm

    Lovely photos ♥

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  14. CaseyWiegand

    February 19th, 2014 at 2:13 pm

    thank you!!!

  15. Izabela

    February 19th, 2014 at 4:55 am

    I could seriously delete all the other blogs I read and just read yours. You are fierce, and wise, and such an inspiration. Thank you for these words, and the truth.

  16. CaseyWiegand

    February 19th, 2014 at 2:13 pm

    wow that is a huge huge compliment!!! thank you so so much for your sweet words!

  17. katie_shannon

    February 19th, 2014 at 11:57 am

    This is just beautiful and a much needed reminder for this mama.

  18. CaseyWiegand

    February 19th, 2014 at 2:13 pm

    aw thank you!!! xoxo!

  19. Christina Schergen

    February 20th, 2014 at 1:35 am

    Love this. It is all about where we invest our time. We need to invest our time in God, our spouse, and most importantly into our kids. It is soooooo important to invest time into them b/c like you said then we know as mamas what makes them tick. I can tell by the look on my kids face what kind of mood they are in. Loved this!

  20. Kayla Sue Paisley

    February 20th, 2014 at 5:39 am

    Seriously such an inspiring post. Loved every single word. You speak the solid truth lady! & such amazing advice. Love everything about your blog. 🙂

  21. Carleeh

    February 24th, 2014 at 6:31 am

    The fe precious moments we have with them as littles. I need to be more intentional with mine, as I have let them get so big and started lossing them in their struggles to find their identities amongst new friends. For the last 2 yrs we have all been struggling to hang on to our old life whole being thrust into the new. Transition out of the military into retired lifestyle. All we knew has changed and each child developed some kind of positive and negative. It is so hard to set time aside when learning your new self, but I feel like God delivered THIS message intentionally to me, his child so I could dive in and catch them before they willing push away for their own independence. How wonderful and refreshing to be reminded that our "free birds" and their brave ways come from God. Lord knows my strong will and leader personality would struggle with another like me. But my hardest battle is with my sensitive girl, because I have never been able to understand her. I love that you put it" The sensitive heart. I fear for this one in a mighty way too, I want to protect that sensitive heart- wrap steel bars around it. That tender spirit is worth fighting to protect" because I feel that way about her, but have to fight to keep from changing that gentleness. Thank you Casey for being true to the Father and sharing as he meant for someone like me to find and hear HIS voice ♥

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