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So much on my heart today.
Some of this will step on toes. Please just read it for what it is, just one persons perspective. Even the other day I said, listen to your own convictions…. Not everyone else.
This is just a perspective I want you to wrestle with.
Chris and I tend to think some extremes on certain issues. Some different, some alike. When we first had Aiden I remember not understanding what everyone meant when they said bringing home a baby was this massive adjustment. Now looking back I can see that was partly from our rough starts ( I saw things differently) and partly being a bit clueless.
Having kids for sure changes the dynamics of your marriage and your life. But I also remember Chris telling people ” if your a selfish person, kids will rock your world”. Then I started having this massive problem with everyone telling me that my baby needed to be independent & that I needed “me” time. A few things to mull over: For me, staying home with my kiddos is a privilege and a massive sacrifice for our finances. It can be taken at any moment from me. Living with that fear perspective….
The last thing I’m thinking about is me time. The last thing I am… is frustrated with them. It’s daily gratitude and soaking up every moment.
I can tell you. We could care less about schedules. My sweet babies eat when they want, sleep when they want. And spend a day with us…they are both incredibly happy children.
A lot of times I think back on “Mary” times. Back then babies were constantly carried, snuggled, held, fed. Thinking this way takes the pressure off sometimes.What if these women were being sharpened by the hard times (that will only last for a season)?
Also, please hear me when I say this. I have lots of struggles, lots of heartache in my life, lots of issues…. my kids just aren’t one of them. So please remember you never know what people are going through. Life is hard. This just happens to be an area of my life that isn’t any of those. Next, read this story. Read about how this girl lost her baby at 4 months. I had a friend lose a baby at three months. You’ll hold your littles tighter. You won’t mind the exhaustion. We are all going to blink and they’ll be grown. I know for me personally my last pregnancy, my last little baby growing into a toddler will be extremely hard on me.
I will beg back these times. I have over these past two years saved articles I love… I want to share some quotes with you…
“We believe God gave babies special gifts to get our attention so we would fulfill our responsibility of meeting their needs.
Consider how our selfish, sinful nature desires to neglect our own children. We believe God knew we would get so preoccupied with other things – even so-called important things – that left to our own fallen nature, we would not give our babies the high level of nurturing that would help them develop to their fullest potential – physically, emotionally, mentally, and intellectually.”
“Is that really God’s plan for mothers and babies?
Often in our efforts to “do the right thing” or to meet our own needs, we forget to extend grace to our own beloved children. God has freely and lovingly blessed us with His gift of grace. Who are we to deny grace to our own children? When your child begs for your loving arms, extend mercy, and do not betray his trust.
What would they learn from such an experience?
Well, our children would learn that babies are inconvenient, and we must prevent them from interfering with our lives by controlling and ignoring them. They would also have a different understanding of Bible verses like this one: “As a mother comforts her child, so will I comfort you.” Isaiah 66:13a NIV
——————————————————— *side note: 2 of you asked questions to me in my last post, so 2 quick answers!
1. crib & changing table are from babies r us!! vintage white iron
2. mason jar cupcakes: you make the cupcakes and then place them in the jars with various layers of icing…they are great for kids because they can just eat out of the jar with a fork!
I am Casey Leigh. I love to share my life through this little blog. When you stop by you can expect pieces of my perspective on life, faith, kids, marriage, loss... with touches of art, creative inspiration, fashion, projects & things I love along the way. My gift to you, our story...