I get quite a few emails daily and honestly get a lot that look like this one so I thought it might be fun to post my response just in case anyone out there has wondered these same questions!
I wanted to start off by saying your blog has changed me. Thank you. You are a wonderful writer and you have a beautiful life that has taught me so much and instilled a desire in me to change and become the person I want to be. You are inspiring and you have made a difference in my life.
I have a few questions. I realize you might not want to answer them but I figured I’d ask.
-How did your husband propose to you?
I was an art teacher at an elementary school right out of college and Chris proposed to me using my students on our one year anniversary. He had each child walk up with a photograph and tell me a reason why he loves me. For example this one below said- “I love you because you see life the same way as me”. The last photograph was a framed picture of an empty ring box! Now these beautiful pictures are hanging in our home!!
-Before you met your husband, did you consider marrying someone else? Did you ever lose hope that you would find someone like him? That boys like that still existed? I, too, am a sensitive soul, and I want a husband who understands that, connects with me, understands me, and is sensitive too. Boys just aren’t like this! And I lose hope sometimes, especially because these days people just don’t hold marriage as high as a priority.
I dated a guy my senior year of college that had talked marriage with me. I think he maybe looked at ring? Not sure if he really did or not. But I knew deep in my heart he wasn’t for me. I knew we were too different at our core. It was hard for me to call it off with someone who I really believe loved me deeply….when you feel loved it can be hard to walk away from that. But I trusted and walked away. I did summer school at Baylor….graduated in August on a Saturday, started teaching on a Monday and met Chris October 21st. I remember my brother saying to me that I would never meet anyone if I never went out and did anything. I told him “God knows me, He knows how I tick…if He has to- He’ll bring him to my doorstep.” And He literally did. I had read this book “when God writes your love story” and just knew that I had to give up trying to control and manipulate relationships into working…..I needed to let God bring someone to me, let him pursue me and honestly we were a perfect match. I truly believe that no one else was made for me. Some people believe that we could be happy with lots of different people but the longer I am with Christopher the more firmly I believe that he was the only one ever for me.
-Finally, how did you “find yourself”? I am at a stage in life where I want to find myself, my passions, ME. I need a hobby, something that is my own to love. And I am stuck on what to do. I am passionate about people, families, relationships, love. But I want a hobby. Any advice?
I hate to say I found myself when I met Chris because I dont think you NEED a man or a friend so that you can “find yourself” BUT in my case that is when it happened. He gave me the courage to pursue a career in art, he encouraged me to start A Little Artsy, he encouraged me to not wait/ not hold back, he encouraged me to blog, he literally has done everything he could to make every single of my dreams come true… and follow my dreams.
When I have a dream he says leap…and that encouragement is what I need. I can truly say I never would have done any of that if he hadnt given me the courage to do so. I battle fear in many areas of my life and Chris’ faith and ability to lean on God’s will for our lives and ability to pursue our individual purpose has been life changing for me.
Thanks for sharing your life with me. You are a wonderful mother and you have given me dreams about what I want my future to look like.